The Nuances of Gaslighting

In a liberal city where feminism is deeply embedded into the social norms and structures, many people who have been here their entire life are able to learn new things. Women empowerment or feminism is something that I personally find the most intriguing so when I get in spaces with feminist I tend to soak up game (ask questions, observe ) the most. Women are the most important part of humanity and I mean that in the most literal way. Women make humans and keep the world “humane”. I’ve said to multiple people that women are not equal to men they are better, but it’s obviously that nothing under the sun is absolved of any issues created.

“Gaslight” A very popular “feminist term”

The definition provided by a google search follows; manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity

Exhibit I

Julia Kristina Counseling – M.A. Psychiatrist

After querying up different perspectives on the oh so popular term “gaslight”, I found Julia Kristina, a psychiatrist who has made a youtube video on the subject.

In the video, Julia reiterates several times that people who are could be experiencing “gaslighting” could have also been abused in some nature in their adolescence.

Knowing that we are in fact living in a patriarchal society , abuse of women and children are prevalent experiences growing up in America. I would go out on a limb and say 100% of POC and 90% of privileged America have experienced abuse. This abuse, according to Julia, can be provided to you by your parents, your siblings or generally anyone who makes frequent appearances in your life.

Another “unwritten and unproven fact” most people would agree with is, “your childhood experiences could shape who your’e as a adult”.

Most people who experience abuse over long periods of time (adolescence) could have lapse in their psychological wellness also known as sanity. The core of “gaslighting” could be insinuating or purposely making someone, most likely a women, question their sanity.

As you process this article you will be questioning your sanity.

And I did in fact manipulate you.

DJ Hipsterwoods


  • handle or control (a tool, mechanism, etc.), typically in a skillful manner.
  • control or influence (a person or situation) cleverly, unfairly, or unscrupulously.

This website and my words  are my tools.

I could have influenced you.

I am clever.

It is unfair if you are not as clever as me.

I was careful with my words.

Manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.


So what feminist and other groups could have done, is came to the agreement that yes they have been abused and yes you are not allowed to question their sanity or deductive reasoning.

We could go further and give examples of abuse you can receive as a child or woman and then dissect the many issues that come to the forefront in adulthood but that would be triggering to some people.

A more important nuance to process would be the “they and their”.

Woman/non-binary who are  the “they” are not allowing men/non-binary who are the “their” question their sanity because of centuries of abuse.

As a man speaking to a woman, I have to say I care about you and hope you question my sanity as well. I do hope you manipulate me so I can see my faults and defaults. I hope you have good intentions that could make more humane.

DJ hipsterwoods

I am a man and I know men can be horrible but they’re are good and bad populations in every species under the sun.

I could be questioning your sanity to get you out a psychological rut I’ve seen before. I could have good intentions or I could be a sociopath or psychopath. Either way I suggest you learn from this experience and understand what type of people you cannot allow into your physical or mental space.

That’s something that all species under the sun have to evaluate and process.

Adjacent Arguments

Black women have said to me and on the many social media outlets that “feminism is a white women’s movement”. It’s been said that they don’t suffer the same struggles, which is true for any living organism.

So black women, why are you telling me I’m gaslighting you??

Why are you pulling out terms from a playbook for a team you don’t want to play on??


Manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sani…